Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honour and power... Rev 4:11

1st Sunday of the year 2014 (Umugara Day)

Theme: Advice on marriage & going abroad

 Words of Exhortation

  •  Strive to be on good terms with God now that you are young.
  •  Will God be there for you on the day of trouble?
  •  When you talk to God, know that He is the Almighty.  You need not shout on Him.  Note that when Christ raised Lazarus from the dead, He spoke gently, with a low tone, to God. But when He speak to rouse Lazarus, He raised His voice because the enemy He was dealing with was hard of hearing and therefore required the loud voice to let go of Lazarus.
  •  Also when a child approaches his (biological) father for school fees, he does not shout on the street or on his father.  Do not shout on God when you talk to Him.


  •   Rahab played the harlot until she was saved.  Although she was a prostitute, she had fear of God and a conscience.  There was a Spirit in her. She requested the spies to swear by God and, she believed that if the swore by God, they will keep it.  In this vein, Daddy Hezekiah enjoined us not allow our past lives and sins to weigh us down.  If God accepted Rahab, then He will accept you/us.
  •   If you are an outlaw or come from a defiled tribe/town and perhaps it affects you, you must not lose hope.  Remember Ruth who came from such a tribe.  God had said that no Moabite would enter His temple accept from the 10th generation. Yet Ruth became one of Christ’s great grandmothers
  •  Being a virgin is a special gift but even if you are not a virgin anymore, do not assume that you cannot work for God.  Remember Mary of Magdala (Mary Magdalene).  On the other hand, Paul was a virgin but he killed a lot of Christians, later God used him greatly for His works. Do not lose hope and do not assume God will not accept or use you to His glory.  
  •   Therefore, if God has called you to work for Him and you do not perform well, do not blame your past sins – they are remembered no more – it is your present deeds that are hindering you!
  •   Even if you are bad, still tell God ‘here am I, send me’. Anything then, that is not right in your life, God will rectify it and use you.


 Point = Marriage

Genesis 24 v 10, 22 – 43, 52, 53 {v10 Then the servant took ten of his master's camels and departed, taking all sorts of choice gifts from his master; and he arose, and went to Mesopota'mia, to the city of Nahor.  v22 When the camels had done drinking, the man took a gold ring weighing a half shekel, and two bracelets for her arms weighing ten gold shekels, v23 and said, "Tell me whose daughter you are. Is there room in your father's house for us to lodge in?"  v24 She said to him, "I am the daughter of Bethu'el the son of Milcah, whom she bore to Nahor."  v25 She added, "We have both straw and provender enough, and room to lodge in."  v26 The man bowed his head and worshiped the LORD,  v27 and said, "Blessed be the LORD, the God of my master Abraham, who has not forsaken his steadfast love and his faithfulness toward my master. As for me, the LORD has led me in the way to the house of my master's kinsmen." 

v28 Then the maiden ran and told her mother's household about these things.  v29 Rebekah had a brother whose name was Laban; and Laban ran out to the man, to the spring.  v30 When he saw the ring, and the bracelets on his sister's arms, and when he heard the words of Rebekah his sister, "Thus the man spoke to me," he went to the man; and behold, he was standing by the camels at the spring.  v31 He said, "Come in, O blessed of the LORD; why do you stand outside? For I have prepared the house and a place for the camels."  v32 So the man came into the house; and Laban ungirded the camels, and gave him straw and provender for the camels, and water to wash his feet and the feet of the men who were with him. 

v33 Then food was set before him to eat; but he said, "I will not eat until I have told my errand." He said, "Speak on." v34 So he said, "I am Abraham's servant.  v35 The LORD has greatly blessed my master, and he has become great; he has given him flocks and herds, silver and gold, menservants and maidservants, camels and asses.  v36 And Sarah my master's wife bore a son to my master when she was old; and to him he has given all that he has. 

v37 My master made me swear, saying, `You shall not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, in whose land I dwell;  v38 but you shall go to my father's house and to my kindred, and take a wife for my son.'  v39 I said to my master, `Perhaps the woman will not follow me.' v40 But he said to me, `The LORD, before whom I walk, will send his angel with you and prosper your way; and you shall take a wife for my son from my kindred and from my father's house;  v41 then you will be free from my oath, when you come to my kindred; and if they will not give her to you, you will be free from my oath.'  v42 "I came today to the spring, and said, `O LORD, the God of my master Abraham, if now thou wilt prosper the way which I go, v43 behold, I am standing by the spring of water; let the young woman who comes out to draw, to whom I shall say, "Pray give me a little water from your jar to drink,”}

  •  A man who wishes to marry must be prepared, financially.  You must ask yourself which room (home) you would take her into. Your parent’s house? Your sister’s house that you are squatting at? A young man aspiring to take a wife must have some money.  For example, the servant of Abraham went with 10 cars (10 camels).
  •  Manner of approach is very important in asking for a woman’s hand in marriage. First presentation matters a lot.
  • Do not be perturbed by what people say – be mature before you start talking about marriage.  Isaac’s father (Abraham) was one of the richest yet he waited till he was 40 years before getting married.
  • See Genesis 11 v 24 – 28 for the genealogy of Terah/Abraham.
  • The words of Abraham’s servant gently reveal to Rebekah where she was going to be married into and what sort of family it would be (Gen 24 v 22 - 24).

 Rebekah was a virgin yet very humble.  She politely answered the questions put to her by Abraham’s servant. This goes to show that certain behaviours/attitude could chase away your ‘would be’ spouse.

  1.       You should ask after her welfare.
  2.       You should buy her reasonable gifts every now and then.
  • The gifts given to Rebekah did wonders. It went a long way.
  • The servant of Abraham came with prayers and humility and also, full hands.
  •  Rebekah did not belittle herself. She displayed good home training.
  • Knowing the root of a woman (that is, her family background) matters a lot.  It helps bring stability in the family.  That way, for instance, if she runs away, you know where to go searching for her. Furthermore, certain issues require the intervention of parents.
  • Verses 34-35.  The words of Abraham’s servant helped convince Rebekah. He promoted Abraham.  But it is noteworthy that Abraham chose this servant carefully. This goes to show that when you want to marry, you must not tell everyone (lest it becomes sabotaged).
  •   Abraham chose someone he trusted.  He took time to select this particular servant. If you choose wrongly, s/he may paint you black behind your back. He may fight you secretly and get the woman for himself. 
  •   Marry someone you know. Be sure to know his or her family home and nativity.

Point = Travelling abroad

  •  Deuteronomy 28 v 1 – 7 deals with God’s blessing and gives guidance on going abroad.
  • The Bible says that if you are on good terms with God, you will be a blessing at home and abroad.
  • Psalm 127 & Psalm 1 also touches on going overseas.

Deuteronomy 7 v 1 – 8 = {v1 When the LORD your God brings you into the land which you are entering to take possession of it, and clears away many nations before you, the Hittites, the Girgashites, the Amorites, the Canaanites, the Perizzites, the Hivites, and the Jebusites, seven nations greater and mightier than yourselves, v2 and when the LORD your God gives them over to you, and you defeat them; then you must utterly destroy them; you shall make no covenant with them. v3 You shall not make any marriages with them, giving your daughters to their sons  or taking their daughters for your sons.  v4 For they would turn away your sons from following me, to serve other gods; then the anger of the LORD would be kindled against you, and he would destroy you quickly.  v5 But thus shall you deal with them: you shall break down their altars, and dash in pieces their pillars, and hew down their Asherim, and burn their graven images with fire.  v6 “For you are a people holy to the LORD your God; the LORD your God has chosen you to be a people for his own possession, out of all the peoples that are on the face of the earth.  v7 It was not because you were more in number than any other people that the LORD set his love upon you and chose you, for you were the fewest of all peoples;  v8 but it is because the LORD loves you, and is keeping the oath which swore top your fathers, that the LORD has brought you out with a mighty hand, and redeemed you from the house of bondage, from the hand of Pharaoh king of Egypt. }

  •   We are a holy people to the Lord.

Numbers 25 v 6 – 9 = {v6 And behold, one of the people of Israel came and brought a Midianite woman to his family, in the sight of Moses and in the sight of the whole congregation of the people of Israel, while they were weeping at the door of the tent of meeting. v7 When Phinehas the son of Eleazar, son of Aaron the priest, saw it, he rose and left the congregation, and took a spear in his hand v8 and went after the man of Israel into the inner room, and pierced both of them, the man of Israel and the woman, through her body. Thus the plague was stayed from the people of Israel. Nevertheless those that died by the plague were twenty-four thousand.}

  •   When you do things with the world as they do, you’ll suffer for it for our God is a jealous God.
  •  Do not allow the works of Daddy in your life for ages to be destroyed within seconds.
  • Do not speak evil because of the temptations coming your way. Pick a leaf from Elizabeth and Zachariah.

Psalm 119 v 5 – 14 = {v5 O that my ways may be steadfast in keeping thy statutes!  v6 Then I shall not be put to shame, having my eyes fixed on all thy commandments.  v7 I will praise thee with an upright heart, when I learn thy righteous ordinances.  v8 I will observe thy statutes; O forsake me not utterly!  v9 How can a young man keep his way pure?  By guarding it according to thy word.  v10 With my whole heart I seek thee; let me not wander from thy commandments!  v11 I have laid up thy word in my heart, that I might not sin against thee.  v12 Blessed be thou, O LORD; teach me thy statues!  v13 With my lips I declare all the ordinances of my mouth.  v14 In the way of thy testimonies I delight as much as in all riches.}

  •   David was surrounded by many temptations – bees, fire, humans, etc. but, he clung to the name of God. That’s how he defeated them.
  •  Ref John 9 – the blind man. Christ went to him when he was ostracized from the church.  The church leaders at the blind man’s church did not have salvation but the person outlawed/ostracized received salvation.
  • Verse 18 shows that God does not kill His children. However, there are times the body is given to the devil due to the grievous/horrible deeds of a person but the soul is saved.


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